I have a friend, who does a lot of workout in gym, has lots of patience to cook and have a very healthy diet. He spends almost half a day in Office and the other half in enhancing his muscles, skin tone, hair care and what not... to get himself transformed and be called, a "Handsome hunk"..!
It's good for him as they all have worked out on him, making him just as the guy, a girl would like to have. But the problem is... He is still single, and is forever ready to mingle...!
The point is.. if he has all that a girl needs, then why aren't girls scouting him? Why is he single and unsatisfactory of being single, whereas almost everyone around him, even those who are less deserving than him are committed...?
Well, i will try to tell you. Say, you wanted to buy '(Something you like/need to have)' and you have left out in search of it.
You come across a supermarket, but unfortunately you find it closed, due to some reasons.
Then as you move ahead, you come across another supermarket, and you enter in. But, all the salesmen seem to be busy and you notice none around, to help you find what you need. So, what will you do? Search for yourselves, of what you need, among all the racks of the market. If found... Well and good. You will buy it. Else, you will leave in despair.. even though they have what you need, in their storage area, but is not displayed on the racks outside.
On your way forward, you find a general store. You might not be sure of finding what you need, there. But as you give it a try... you might find the shopkeeper very friendly, nice and respectful. As you ask him, he might give you exactly what you need, or maybe... even more of what you need, as a bonus, making you very satisfactory with his service. Now what? You got more than what you have aspired to have...! All happies, and you will continue to visit his shop, for everything you need.
It happens, right? Yes it does. Most of the times.
Now, let me relate the same with 'Boys and Girls'. As far as i am concerned... there is no difference in the roles being played either by boys or girls. At times, when boys come across a beautiful girl, or when girls come across a perfect guy... the reactions that get capitulated, are found to be similar. Its just that... boys are expressive, and girls are suppressive...of their feelings...!
Now, say that you are the customer in the above example, and you are a girl.
You have come across a guy you like, but he is 'closed' for you. i.e, he is either committed or not interested in getting himself into the eternal quagmire of love.
So, you move ahead and you get acquainted with another guy. This guy has everything you need, but he is not 'SHOWCASING' them. He is busy with his work, constricted by his dreams and too matured to have fun with. He likes you. But he can't show, either his liking for you or what he possess in him... for some reason. Resulting in... You, getting mislead, that he doesn't have what you need and moving ahead.
Then, you come across another guy, who seems to be a simple type. You might think... how can he be the one, i need? But when you make a move or he makes one, to be precise... you might like the way he talks, he convinces, he behaves, he acts, he respects and probably... the way he lives, with his habits and all. This will obviously provoke you to take a step towards, and if everything works out well... that simple guy himself might become your superhero...!
Isn't what i said true? You seek something in others, which you like or which you dream to have. And when you find that in a person... he/she will become the one, with whom you can 'Zing'...!
All this will happen, when people start to be open minded, and express themselves.
You cannot guess, what's there in a steel jar, just by mere looks. Can you? It might be empty, it might have diamonds, it might have poison or anything for that point. So, you might not dare to take a risk
of having it.
Whereas, if you come across a glass jar... and it just has Silver in it, but not gold or diamonds...
even then, you might pick it. Because... you are confident enough, that you will be getting 'Silver' at least, and will not be ended with Poison, in quest for gold or diamonds...!
So, if you want someone to befriend you or like you...
SHOWCASE yourselves. Be the glass jar, that everyone can see. If you are good... the same will get reflected, and people will get attracted towards you, all by themselves!!!
But, if you are of false type, and prefer to be a steel jar... some innocent people might get attracted to you... But soon, as they realize what you possess, they will definitely make their way out.
So... be a glass jar of flowers... with small thorns (surprises), great flavour (love), sweet fragrance (friendship), supporting leaves (care), simple petals (looks) and do SHOWCASE, all that you have... to get people, eye you.
Finally... i am not misleading you to go for looks, which are temporary.
Also, i am not misguiding you to 'Expose' yourselves. I am just asking you to 'Express' yourselves.
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