"Mera Bharat Mahaan" - Do we deserve that slogan, yet?

Dear social networking activists and protesters .. Why aren't you raising a voice against the cruel rape cases, that are being piled up in the files of police stations and filling up the tapes in News channels... after the 'Nirbhaya' case?

* You are fed up of the increasing number of cases, day in and day out?
* You are unaware of them, as you are being busy with your life?
* You think, a brutality against a 5 year girl or young teenage girls, is not as brutal as what has happened to Nirbhaya?
* Or, You are waiting for someone to upload some pics on FB, so that you would share them and feel elated that you did your part for the society?

Why am i not finding any 'Black dots' as profile pictures these days... even after there is a drastic rise in the number of incidents, day by day?
Not getting any friend requests? So, you got back to your own profile picture of you being at a Star hotel or Within your room walls seeing yourself on mirror? Well you actually don't need the mirror, right... For the increasing number of 'Part-Time-Photographers', who are ever ready to take pictures of you, edit them and upload them in their 'Private pages'... to see 'Likes' and 'Shares' being incremented...!

Anyway, i don't want to hurt anyone and i didn't mean to comment anyone either; for i know... There is nothing in your hands. You are flowing with the way of life.

If any change is to emerge... it should start from a different end... and that is...


"I literally don't know...!"

Yes... i don't know!!! I don't know, what should be done to the people who are being so evil against women. Everyday, i see a similar news on TV and read a similar article in Paper. In fact... only such news is being heard or seen, these days.

You know that, there has been approximately 250+ reported cases in Delhi alone... after the Nirbhaya's incident? You wouldn't. Because they have become very common now. Just as a movie releases or a match happens in IPL... which doesn't make any sense to your daily life... even rape cases have become common.

But the girls involved... are losing a lot more than just life...! Of all the things that can't be explained... like God or love or etc... 'The feelings of the girl who has been a prey to such carnivores' is the most complicated one.

My mom told me, when i was 15... "Before you do anything to any Girl... just recollect the fact that you too have a sister, and some one else can do the same with her too"

Those words have always been inside me. I have many girls in my life... and i have respected each and every one of them, individually. Of course i have hurt a few... but in no time, i found out that... they are happy with their lives and got over me...! # That's a different issue.

Well, the point is... What should be done?
I have seen a news article today, saying... "...A 5 year old girl was kidnapped on Monday (15 Apr'13) by their very next door neighbor, and was held captive for 2 days until Wednesday (17 Apr'13), and has raped her continuously without giving her either food or water, even..."

Seriously? A 5 year old girl? Where the hell are we heading to? We comment other nations and their living traditions and say to ourselves... "Mera Bharat Mahaan"...!
Is this what we meant by that slogan? I can give a 100 reasons to hate India. I'm sorry, but yes.
Now you might come up with a 10000000 reasons, saying why i should love India...! But common yaar...!
# Will talk about it later.

Now, what shall we do to this guy?
* Kill him? Will that do? He was a next door neighbour, whom they have trusted as their family. If such a guy can stab you... how many more can turn up? Shall we kill them all?
* Educate men? Well... yes. That will do. If every mother now, can educate her son to be nice... we can have better men in some 10 years. So, until then? Women should continue to befall prey?
* Get some strict laws? Well, we can do that. But just tell me... how many Indians follow perfect rules and abide by law? Let it be a small one or big one... We break it, and it's in our blood!! Sorry... we cant change that. # bdw a law has come, but India has sought nothing from it.
* Protect our sisters and daughters all the time? Well, that will soon become the only duty for the parents to do. A day will come, when parents will skip their works, to just protect their daughters.
* Ask girls to be decent? Well... how decent do you want a 5 year girl to be? Just answer this, and then i will let you know the other answer. Bdw... if girls are not behaving decent... let them be. Why do YOU want to become indecent, watching them that way? Can't you hold back your masculinity? If can't, then become a eunuch. But don't blame them.
Then? What else???

It seems like i am out of options, here. So, is there nothing we can do, to change the nature and ideology of those men who get such meaningless and heinous thoughts, when they see girls... irrespective of what their age is...!?!

Well i think... "YES". We are hopeless...!
But, one thing can be done, as our part, for this problem, to our Nation.
I am not suggesting you to share awareness pictures or write lengthy blogs like this.

I would like you to do, one thing...

If you are a Man... "Take care of the girls around you. Let them, be your friends or cousins or the one you love. And, if any male friend of you, shares some wicked thoughts like these... just slap him and get him under control, by going to any distance...! Be a Man...! Win a girls heart. Don't try to win her body."

If you are a Woman... "Take care of yourselves, first. Then, take care of all your friends. If any friend of you, senses some sort of danger from any guy... just don't take chances. Also, there will be times... when no one will be there to aid you. So, be attentive always. Be in your senses. Have some good company of people. Avoid risks. Life should be adventurous. Yes!! But not at the stake of losing it...!"

If not us... At least let us make our Children, or our Grand Children proudly say... "Mera Bharat Mahaan"...!
We can do it. We all, together... Can...! :)

And... That guy, who made that small kid undergo such hell like pain... :'(
Will seek hell, very soon. Even if not now... one day he will...!!!!!!!

~ Be the 'Glass jar' ~ Showcase Yourselves ~

I have a friend, who does a lot of workout in gym, has lots of patience to cook and have a very healthy diet. He spends almost half a day in Office and the other half in enhancing his muscles, skin tone, hair care and what not... to get himself transformed and be called, a "Handsome hunk"..!

It's good for him as they all have worked out on him, making him just as the guy, a girl would like to have. But the problem is... He is still single, and is forever ready to mingle...!

The point is.. if he has all that a girl needs, then why aren't girls scouting him? Why is he single and unsatisfactory of being single, whereas almost everyone around him, even those who are less deserving than him are committed...?

Well, i will try to tell you. Say, you wanted to buy '(Something you like/need to have)' and you have left out in search of it.
You come across a supermarket, but unfortunately you find it closed, due to some reasons.

Then as you move ahead, you come across another supermarket, and you enter in. But, all the salesmen seem to be busy and you notice none around, to help you find what you need. So, what will you do? Search for yourselves, of what you need, among all the racks of the market. If found... Well and good. You will buy it. Else, you will leave in despair.. even though they have what you need, in their storage area, but is not displayed on the racks outside.

On your way forward, you find a general store. You might not be sure of finding what you need, there. But as you give it a try... you might find the shopkeeper very friendly, nice and respectful. As you ask him, he might give you exactly what you need, or maybe... even more of what you need, as a bonus, making you very satisfactory with his service. Now what? You got more than what you have aspired to have...! All happies, and you will continue to visit his shop, for everything you need.

It happens, right? Yes it does. Most of the times.

Now, let me relate the same with 'Boys and Girls'. As far as i am concerned... there is no difference in the roles being played either by boys or girls. At times, when boys come across a beautiful girl, or when girls come across a perfect guy... the reactions that get capitulated, are found to be similar. Its just that... boys are expressive, and girls are suppressive...of their feelings...!

Now, say that you are the customer in the above example, and you are a girl.
You have come across a guy you like, but he is 'closed' for you. i.e, he is either committed or not interested in getting himself into the eternal quagmire of love.

So, you move ahead and you get acquainted with another guy. This guy has everything you need, but he is not 'SHOWCASING' them. He is busy with his work, constricted by his dreams and too matured to have fun with. He likes you. But he can't show, either his liking for you or what he possess in him... for some reason. Resulting in... You, getting mislead, that he doesn't have what you need and moving ahead.

Then, you come across another guy, who seems to be a simple type. You might think... how can he be the one, i need? But when you make a move or he makes one, to be precise... you might like the way he talks, he convinces, he behaves, he acts, he respects and probably... the way he lives, with his habits and all. This will obviously provoke you to take a step towards, and if everything works out well... that simple guy himself might become your superhero...!

Isn't what i said true? You seek something in others, which you like or which you dream to have. And when you find that in a person... he/she will become the one, with whom you can 'Zing'...!

All this will happen, when people start to be open minded, and express themselves.
You cannot guess, what's there in a steel jar, just by mere looks. Can you? It might be empty, it might have diamonds, it might have poison or anything for that point. So, you might not dare to take a risk
of having it.

Whereas, if you come across a glass jar... and it just has Silver in it, but not gold or diamonds...
even then, you might pick it. Because... you are confident enough, that you will be getting 'Silver' at least, and will not be ended with Poison, in quest for gold or diamonds...!

So, if you want someone to befriend you or like you...
SHOWCASE yourselves. Be the glass jar, that everyone can see. If you are good... the same will get reflected, and people will get attracted towards you, all by themselves!!!

But, if you are of false type, and prefer to be a steel jar... some innocent people might get attracted to you... But soon, as they realize what you possess, they will definitely make their way out.

So... be a glass jar of flowers... with small thorns (surprises), great flavour (love), sweet fragrance (friendship), supporting leaves (care), simple petals (looks) and do SHOWCASE, all that you have... to get people, eye you.

Finally... i am not misleading you to go for looks, which are temporary.
Also, i am not misguiding you to 'Expose' yourselves. I am just asking you to 'Express' yourselves.