Mirrored Relations

(: ~ With less Complaints, More Surprises and Better Understanding... Spread love to your Loved Ones ~ :)

~ Before you crave for and go viral for your Mate's Love...
Love yourselves and be sure of the amount of love, you can shower on your partner. Always remember... Most relations are like Mirrors. They only reflect, what you Show them...!
You give Laughter, you get it back. You show Attitude, you get it shown. You express jealousy, you face it back...! So... let us Spread ' SMILE ' ...! :)
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~ I have heard from a close friend of mine that, "If Men are Professionally happy, then they will stay Personally happy too. On the flip side, if Women are Personally happy, then they stay Professionally happy...!"
A minute of reasoning, made me realize it to be very legit too :)

So, couples (not needed to be married) who are in to some profession, can be happy, if they keep this in Mind, and work accordingly :D
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~ Then, the same friend has told me that, "On an average a Person falls in love for 7 times, in his life."
Now i don't know if that fact is bound to be true and many might oppose me too, regarding this fact. But a minute of realisation will give any Person, a Count more than a minimum number of 2 love stories...! And to maintain the average from falling down, there are a few who fall in love for more than 10 to 15 times..! ;)

So, if your partner reveals that they have had a love story, try to be Optimistic :) Can't expect someone to be 'Out of the box', waiting for you, for ~22 years...!
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~ "I have never crossed my limits", is a very common idiom we use, when we share a piece of our love story with others.
But who has set those limits? You yourself has. And what are the 'Limitations of your limits?' Only you will know. There is a fair chance of 'Increasing the bounds of your limitations', as the story progresses. So, never fall for that phrase...!
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~ A discussion emerged about, "How can we experience the peaks of someone's love?"
* Firstly, its a 'Give and Get' policy. Of course there are a few, who become devotees of their loved ones, even if the others doesn't care. Considering them an exception, to get to experience the complete feel of love... give your partner, as much love as you can. Of course, sometimes even that won't help, based on the nature and mentality of the type of person you are loving...! So, throw your luck a chance :)

* Or, 'Get an Active and Wild-thoughted partner'. That itself will not do.
Having a daily busy routine, will not fetch you any good.
Plan a holiday, at least 3 to 4 months before, and compel your partner to schedule accordingly. Take the lead and keep finding out some interesting details and share them subsequently, to evoke an interest towards the trip, in your partner.

Then, go out-of-your-world to do all that you would not generally do. Help each other in doing things you both are afraid of doing, and the moment you do it together... You would be at a certain 'Peak of love' :)

(: ~ With less Complaints, More Surprises and Better Understanding... Spread love to your Loved Ones ~ :)

~ Perfect Time for a Switch ~

" A Billion Cheated " was the headline of a newspaper, a few days back... as IPL got its mask unraveled, as a Fixed show..!!

Now, i dont understand whats wrong with it!! Wasn't IPL triggered, to make money??
BCCI makes it from Franchises and Players sold; Franchise Owners make it from Sponsors and Ticket sales; Players make it from franchises bought; Sponsors make it from increasing Sales; People make it from Bettings... ranging from a petty amount of a few hundreds among friends and online websites... to a few crores among riches and bookies...!

It was all set, like a WWE show, to entertain people with a script, and make money. Everyone were happy too, until Season 6, where the truth has come out...!

If the game has happened, the way it should... NONE would have felt bad, even if he had lost some Money. But here, the game got altered and has run under someone else's wishes... driving our losses, to their profits... making EVERYONE feel bad!!

A person might enjoy a fair loss of a Crore rupees, but would never accept an unfair loss, even of a mere Ten rupees.
There came the problem, when a few players got caught under 'Spot-fixing', making Indians go viral against IPL and Cricket too.
Of course MI won, and many have enjoyed their success. Especially when they won over CSK...!
But it was too late, by then. At least a half of India has lost their interest and didn't care, who has won the season..!

Now, the Champions Trophy is live, with all the 8 big Nations playing, resembling a mini WC. Still...Not many are interested in that.
They have had enough, from IPL. It will take some time, for the Indians to be back and enjoy cricket... ' Heartily '...!! Also, On the flip side... each match comprising of 100 overs, is equivalent to 2 and 1/2 IPL matches, which is too much to be seen, continuously. So, no chance, for now.
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Now on the other hand, we have Football, with winners as following, for the Major Leagues of the Year 2012-13:

England - Manchester United
Germany - Bayern Munich
Russia - CSKA Moskva
Scotland - Celtic
France -Paris Saint German
Spain - Barcelona
Turkey - Galatasaray
Netherlands - Ajax
Italy - Juventus
Portugal - Porto

India - Churchill brothers

UCL - Bayern Munich
UEL - Chelsea

Football is a sport being played by 196 Nations, and in each Country, at least 3 to 10 leagues happen, every year. Then, they have Region wise cups, State wise, Nation wise, Continent wise and at last... World Cup, where all the 196 National teams themselves, compete for glory, to have their hands on the Cup...!

Now, such a sport is not cared much in India, which in turn is damaging the morale of the players who play for our country... resulting in poor performances all the way, making us hang around a rank of 140-150...!!

There have been some publicity events held, like Maradona's visit; Bollywood XI vs Cricket XI; Drogba, Lampard and Torres's visit; and so on. But never has some craze sought Football in India. Indian's doesn't watch football because, Indian players are not winning, and they are not winning because, we are not watching...! :\

There are some academies being held in Mumbai and Goa, by Boca juniors (Argentine club), and Manchester United and some other EPL teams, who are undertaking kids at an age of 5 and are training them, to get the best of them.

Also, QPR owner, Laxmi Mittal, took some 5 to 6... 12 year kids to England and is giving them the required training there.

Also, Manchester City are looking for a tie-up with Churchill brothers of India, who play along side of "Goa", for future endeavours in India.

Also, an IPL style football league is being planned to be held in Goa from 2014. Of course it is facing some oppositions from AIFF and I-League, but i hope it will come over them and get into action, unlike ' Premier League Soccer India ', which was to start in 2012, but got stopped for no specific reason...!!!

With all such advancements being happen around... We can expect a better future for Indian football in the coming few years...! Now, I dont seek a better time than this, for the Indians to Choose a team and Come fall in love, by shifting their gears and steering towards the 'Biggest Sporting Religion of the World'...!!!

Football is not just about Game. It is a lot more about History, Legends, Loyalty, Team, Respect, Derby's, Honours, Trophies, Transfers, Managers, Players, Money, Academies, Youth, Fans and a looooot more...!! :D So, give your shot at it. I bet... once you get into it, you will never ever think of getting out of it, ever again :)

"Mera Bharat Mahaan" - Do we deserve that slogan, yet?

Dear social networking activists and protesters .. Why aren't you raising a voice against the cruel rape cases, that are being piled up in the files of police stations and filling up the tapes in News channels... after the 'Nirbhaya' case?

* You are fed up of the increasing number of cases, day in and day out?
* You are unaware of them, as you are being busy with your life?
* You think, a brutality against a 5 year girl or young teenage girls, is not as brutal as what has happened to Nirbhaya?
* Or, You are waiting for someone to upload some pics on FB, so that you would share them and feel elated that you did your part for the society?

Why am i not finding any 'Black dots' as profile pictures these days... even after there is a drastic rise in the number of incidents, day by day?
Not getting any friend requests? So, you got back to your own profile picture of you being at a Star hotel or Within your room walls seeing yourself on mirror? Well you actually don't need the mirror, right... For the increasing number of 'Part-Time-Photographers', who are ever ready to take pictures of you, edit them and upload them in their 'Private pages'... to see 'Likes' and 'Shares' being incremented...!

Anyway, i don't want to hurt anyone and i didn't mean to comment anyone either; for i know... There is nothing in your hands. You are flowing with the way of life.

If any change is to emerge... it should start from a different end... and that is...


"I literally don't know...!"

Yes... i don't know!!! I don't know, what should be done to the people who are being so evil against women. Everyday, i see a similar news on TV and read a similar article in Paper. In fact... only such news is being heard or seen, these days.

You know that, there has been approximately 250+ reported cases in Delhi alone... after the Nirbhaya's incident? You wouldn't. Because they have become very common now. Just as a movie releases or a match happens in IPL... which doesn't make any sense to your daily life... even rape cases have become common.

But the girls involved... are losing a lot more than just life...! Of all the things that can't be explained... like God or love or etc... 'The feelings of the girl who has been a prey to such carnivores' is the most complicated one.

My mom told me, when i was 15... "Before you do anything to any Girl... just recollect the fact that you too have a sister, and some one else can do the same with her too"

Those words have always been inside me. I have many girls in my life... and i have respected each and every one of them, individually. Of course i have hurt a few... but in no time, i found out that... they are happy with their lives and got over me...! # That's a different issue.

Well, the point is... What should be done?
I have seen a news article today, saying... "...A 5 year old girl was kidnapped on Monday (15 Apr'13) by their very next door neighbor, and was held captive for 2 days until Wednesday (17 Apr'13), and has raped her continuously without giving her either food or water, even..."

Seriously? A 5 year old girl? Where the hell are we heading to? We comment other nations and their living traditions and say to ourselves... "Mera Bharat Mahaan"...!
Is this what we meant by that slogan? I can give a 100 reasons to hate India. I'm sorry, but yes.
Now you might come up with a 10000000 reasons, saying why i should love India...! But common yaar...!
# Will talk about it later.

Now, what shall we do to this guy?
* Kill him? Will that do? He was a next door neighbour, whom they have trusted as their family. If such a guy can stab you... how many more can turn up? Shall we kill them all?
* Educate men? Well... yes. That will do. If every mother now, can educate her son to be nice... we can have better men in some 10 years. So, until then? Women should continue to befall prey?
* Get some strict laws? Well, we can do that. But just tell me... how many Indians follow perfect rules and abide by law? Let it be a small one or big one... We break it, and it's in our blood!! Sorry... we cant change that. # bdw a law has come, but India has sought nothing from it.
* Protect our sisters and daughters all the time? Well, that will soon become the only duty for the parents to do. A day will come, when parents will skip their works, to just protect their daughters.
* Ask girls to be decent? Well... how decent do you want a 5 year girl to be? Just answer this, and then i will let you know the other answer. Bdw... if girls are not behaving decent... let them be. Why do YOU want to become indecent, watching them that way? Can't you hold back your masculinity? If can't, then become a eunuch. But don't blame them.
Then? What else???

It seems like i am out of options, here. So, is there nothing we can do, to change the nature and ideology of those men who get such meaningless and heinous thoughts, when they see girls... irrespective of what their age is...!?!

Well i think... "YES". We are hopeless...!
But, one thing can be done, as our part, for this problem, to our Nation.
I am not suggesting you to share awareness pictures or write lengthy blogs like this.

I would like you to do, one thing...

If you are a Man... "Take care of the girls around you. Let them, be your friends or cousins or the one you love. And, if any male friend of you, shares some wicked thoughts like these... just slap him and get him under control, by going to any distance...! Be a Man...! Win a girls heart. Don't try to win her body."

If you are a Woman... "Take care of yourselves, first. Then, take care of all your friends. If any friend of you, senses some sort of danger from any guy... just don't take chances. Also, there will be times... when no one will be there to aid you. So, be attentive always. Be in your senses. Have some good company of people. Avoid risks. Life should be adventurous. Yes!! But not at the stake of losing it...!"

If not us... At least let us make our Children, or our Grand Children proudly say... "Mera Bharat Mahaan"...!
We can do it. We all, together... Can...! :)

And... That guy, who made that small kid undergo such hell like pain... :'(
Will seek hell, very soon. Even if not now... one day he will...!!!!!!!

~ Be the 'Glass jar' ~ Showcase Yourselves ~

I have a friend, who does a lot of workout in gym, has lots of patience to cook and have a very healthy diet. He spends almost half a day in Office and the other half in enhancing his muscles, skin tone, hair care and what not... to get himself transformed and be called, a "Handsome hunk"..!

It's good for him as they all have worked out on him, making him just as the guy, a girl would like to have. But the problem is... He is still single, and is forever ready to mingle...!

The point is.. if he has all that a girl needs, then why aren't girls scouting him? Why is he single and unsatisfactory of being single, whereas almost everyone around him, even those who are less deserving than him are committed...?

Well, i will try to tell you. Say, you wanted to buy '(Something you like/need to have)' and you have left out in search of it.
You come across a supermarket, but unfortunately you find it closed, due to some reasons.

Then as you move ahead, you come across another supermarket, and you enter in. But, all the salesmen seem to be busy and you notice none around, to help you find what you need. So, what will you do? Search for yourselves, of what you need, among all the racks of the market. If found... Well and good. You will buy it. Else, you will leave in despair.. even though they have what you need, in their storage area, but is not displayed on the racks outside.

On your way forward, you find a general store. You might not be sure of finding what you need, there. But as you give it a try... you might find the shopkeeper very friendly, nice and respectful. As you ask him, he might give you exactly what you need, or maybe... even more of what you need, as a bonus, making you very satisfactory with his service. Now what? You got more than what you have aspired to have...! All happies, and you will continue to visit his shop, for everything you need.

It happens, right? Yes it does. Most of the times.

Now, let me relate the same with 'Boys and Girls'. As far as i am concerned... there is no difference in the roles being played either by boys or girls. At times, when boys come across a beautiful girl, or when girls come across a perfect guy... the reactions that get capitulated, are found to be similar. Its just that... boys are expressive, and girls are suppressive...of their feelings...!

Now, say that you are the customer in the above example, and you are a girl.
You have come across a guy you like, but he is 'closed' for you. i.e, he is either committed or not interested in getting himself into the eternal quagmire of love.

So, you move ahead and you get acquainted with another guy. This guy has everything you need, but he is not 'SHOWCASING' them. He is busy with his work, constricted by his dreams and too matured to have fun with. He likes you. But he can't show, either his liking for you or what he possess in him... for some reason. Resulting in... You, getting mislead, that he doesn't have what you need and moving ahead.

Then, you come across another guy, who seems to be a simple type. You might think... how can he be the one, i need? But when you make a move or he makes one, to be precise... you might like the way he talks, he convinces, he behaves, he acts, he respects and probably... the way he lives, with his habits and all. This will obviously provoke you to take a step towards, and if everything works out well... that simple guy himself might become your superhero...!

Isn't what i said true? You seek something in others, which you like or which you dream to have. And when you find that in a person... he/she will become the one, with whom you can 'Zing'...!

All this will happen, when people start to be open minded, and express themselves.
You cannot guess, what's there in a steel jar, just by mere looks. Can you? It might be empty, it might have diamonds, it might have poison or anything for that point. So, you might not dare to take a risk
of having it.

Whereas, if you come across a glass jar... and it just has Silver in it, but not gold or diamonds...
even then, you might pick it. Because... you are confident enough, that you will be getting 'Silver' at least, and will not be ended with Poison, in quest for gold or diamonds...!

So, if you want someone to befriend you or like you...
SHOWCASE yourselves. Be the glass jar, that everyone can see. If you are good... the same will get reflected, and people will get attracted towards you, all by themselves!!!

But, if you are of false type, and prefer to be a steel jar... some innocent people might get attracted to you... But soon, as they realize what you possess, they will definitely make their way out.

So... be a glass jar of flowers... with small thorns (surprises), great flavour (love), sweet fragrance (friendship), supporting leaves (care), simple petals (looks) and do SHOWCASE, all that you have... to get people, eye you.

Finally... i am not misleading you to go for looks, which are temporary.
Also, i am not misguiding you to 'Expose' yourselves. I am just asking you to 'Express' yourselves.

Dreams

Dreams…! What comes to your mind, when you hear the word ‘dreams’?
(Hope, you gave it a thought...!)

Well, yes. Dreams are something which we get in our sleep.

Now, the dreams we get in our sleep, last only for a few seconds, or as long as twenty minutes. People are more likely to remember the dream if they are awakened during the REM (rapid eye movement) phase.

The average person has three to five dreams per night, but some may have up to seven dreams in one night. The dreams tend to last longer as the night progresses. During a full eight-hour night sleep, two hours of it is spent dreaming.

Now, we seek nothing from such dreams. As I said… they occur almost every day, to everyone. At most, we can memorize them and if they turn out to be funny… might share with our friends and have fun. Nothing much else can be sought from them.

But, the dreams which I would like to talk now are totally different. These are the dreams, which will transform a person’s life. These are the dreams, which will instill some hope into human life saying, “This is the reason, I am here.” “I need to achieve it.” “I want to become a doctor, director, engineer etc” and also, “I want to see Italy, Spain, etc”

Dreams are something, for which we work, to attain them and in turn adore the moment we achieve them.
Dreams are something, which give us a hope to live and make us realize  how beautiful our life is, when we live what we have dreamt of.

A person without a dream to achieve is a person without a life at all. What is a life when it has no dreams? When I say dreams, I am not meaning to “have a dream of going on a date with Sharukh, for girls and Katrina, for boys”..!

If you want to know the value of a dream… ask your favorite sportsman or your favorite hero, that “How does it feel to have live your dream and be so famous?”


Having a dream doesn’t only mean to be famous. Here, on this stage… as we are having this speech… someone out there might be dreaming of this, that “I wish I was in TCS” or something like that, because this card here, has got a lot of respect, out there. We stand an inspiration to many students.

Similarly, even we should have some inspiration and a dream to live on.

I had many dreams. I wanted to make a short film, I did 3. I wanted to do photography and I stood first in GUSAC carnival of my college, GITAM Univ. I want to see at least 10 foreign places, and I have seen 2 countries already. I wanted to be in TCS, and now i am in.

Also, I have lost almost 22 years of my life with stage fear and timidity. But I wanted to overcome it and live a bold life, and i am in those trials now.
Apart from these, I had been working on the biggest dream of my life; and I am living only with the hope that, one day… I will achieve it. (Fingers crossed actually)

People are not afraid of dreaming. They are afraid of the consequences, they might get to face when they fail in what they wanted to do. I have seen many of my friends who have joined college, irrespective of their interest in the field of their study. They wanted to be something else. Some of them wanted to be cricket players; some wanted to be directors, some musicians and so on.


But they have joined college, because they were not sure of their potential. But now, they have ended up becoming nothing at all. Neither what they have dreamt of, nor what their parents have dreamt of. Some of them got jobs, but every once a while, when I talk to them… they express their regrets of not doing what they wanted to do.


That is the only difference between celebrities and us. They took their brave step, and we couldn’t. That’s it…!


People won’t believe, when u aspires to do something, and some might even make fun of you and your dreams…! But the same people will appreciate you, when you have succeeded.

Also, if we have some dreams, and keep on dreaming about the consequences, but not work towards it… then those dreams of ours will remain as dreams, forever…! Work hard, learn how to do it, try to know about the experiences of all those who has done it before, have hope, ignore the in numerous forces which will be trying to pull you back, all the time… and if not the first time, you will surely reach your dream destination very soon.

J. K. Rowling, Dr.Peuss, Walt Disney, Messi, Eminem and for that point, even Einstein as well. They all have failed many a times… but now they are the legends of their respective fields…!

Even we shall rise to such heights, if we have a dream and work towards it with constant hope and positive thinking…!

One sentence, which is giving me hope for my dream is that “Don’t rush things. Anything worth having is worth waiting for.”

Also… one last thing… “A million might have told you this before. Count me, the million plus one – You never know whether you have a tomorrow. Live as if it is your last day. Do, see, achieve and enjoy as much as you can… Today only.

Don’t wait for anyone to accompany you. No one will, anyway.

So, just don’t stop doing what you love, just because you have no companions. Live life, as per your wishes and dreams…!"

Ants vs Humans

A Million might have told you this. Count me as Million + 1 to say some Good Words

~> Never Judge Anything by What You See. <~

~> Always try to Judge Only after You Know and Understand <~

Today morning, as I sat down to have my breakfast… I got a call and by the time I got back, my plate was full of ‘Black Ants’ (Small ones). I just got irritated and my mom changed my plate. As I was savoring my meal… at least 1000 more ants have come up the dining table once again.

I didn't bother them as they were away from my plate. Then I have observed them for the next 15 mins of my meal time… and realized how arousing they are.

•                  Earlier, as I threw away some ants in anger, a very few died. Now these new ants who have come… first went to their rescue. One after the other… lifted back their dead and injured friends to their homes. They were not known to each other. Still they helped. They were dead; still they took them back home.
•                 Whereas we humans… despite having enough Knowledge to write Constitutions and Laws… doesn't have that heart to help people who are unknown to us, at accidents. Not all. Seriously not all. But many are such. We at most will say… “R.I.P Bro” or ‘Will even shed a tear’… but will not go for their rescue, when needed.

•                     Then, a second batch of ants has come to gather some food for their upcoming winter and rainy seasons. Planning…! Serious planning…! Best part being… Implementing them and working towards them.
•             If at all we humans have such a ‘planning-and-implementing’ capability… The world would have been a lot better place than it is now… With less ‘Poor’ and less ‘Corrupted Rich’ people…!

•              Then, a few ants came and lifted some light particles, which are still at least 10 times heavier than their weight. Of course we know that ants can lift up to 20 times heavier weight… but still, they were doing their part… and we can’t blame them now for not lifting still heavier pieces. Because… At least they are Working and Contributing.
•    We humans (especially jobless drunkards and freely roaming idiots), despite having such an immense strength and gigantic muscles… don’t use them properly. Of course I am not asking them to be ‘Porters’ and keep lifting weights. But at least they can try and be ‘Not Lazy’ and ‘Do some work for their Family as their contribution, rather than eat up their money and gossip around uselessly’.

•             Then some ants joined their fellow ants who have been trying to lift weights which were far greater than their weights. One after one… almost 20 to 30 ants joined as a group and after a few seconds struggle… they could finally lift their ‘Bounty’…! As a TEAM… without failing each other, without worrying about their share of credit and without thinking ‘Why I should help others in THEIR Work’… they went through the way they have come in.
•    But we humans… despite getting trained to work as a team and despite having enough common sense… doesn’t bother to help our fellow mates… until we are either forced to do, or paid enough to do. Also… we seek our share or credibility in everything we do…!

These were some important lessons I learned today, from the very miniature creatures we see every day in our lives. We just ignore such GREAT TEACHERS we have in our houses and seek motivation and training from institutions which has men… the very same like us.

Also one important lesson, we all know but never get into action…

“Size or Appearance doesn’t matter… As long as an individual is Responsible, Caring, Understanding, Loving and Helping… their Family, Friends or any individual… for that point.”